What Does BDSM Mean To You?
This is a crucial question that few seem to take the time to answer. What does BDSM mean to you? We read about this being a way of life yet did you ever take the time to consider what it means? The...
View ArticleResponsibility
BDSM is an Adult Lifestyle. Since this is the case, how come so many act like children? Why is it that adults are so hard to find? Perhaps it is because people seem to think that BDSM is some...
View ArticleSelf Title Versus Earned
The Internet really changed how the BDSM world operates. There was a time when the community was rather small in comparison with invitations being personally delivered as opposed to open-ended posting...
View ArticleA Higher Standard: Physical
This post is certainly going to offend some people and that is quite alright with me. I hope some people are up in arms about what I am going to write simply for the fact that we, as a population,...
View ArticleA Higher Standard: Emotional
In my last post we covered the physical aspect of oneself and how I believe we, as members of the BDSM community, are responsible for holding ourselves to a higher standard. The starting point of this...
View ArticleTotal Commitment
Commitment is a central part of success in any endeavor in life. It matters none the area of focus, the basic fact is that our level of success will be in proportion to how committed we are to...
View ArticleDomineering
I decided to write this post after witnessing some behavior online that really drove home how misguided some "dominants" can be. This type of outlook has the ability to severely harm another both in a...
View ArticleThe Online Crowd
Much of society's interaction today takes place online. This is a fact of the times and trying to change it is fruitless. The workplace is filled with online meetings and communication via email or...
View ArticleWeaknesses
Nobody walking the planet today is perfect. We all are flawed in some way. This is an inescapable fact. Sadly, the way some behave, you would think they were exempt from this minor tidbit of...
View ArticleSlaves With Power
Today I must write a post to clarify an idea that is so common it actually is scary. So many people buy into this idea that it is amazing that people can exist in the real world to any degree. The...
View ArticleThe Freedom Of BDSM
I always found it ironic that a lifestyle that contains bondage is a pathway to many for freedom in life. However, those of us who live this way of life realized that is exactly what happened....
View ArticleReliability
As part of the ongoing idea that people in the BDSM world should hold themselves to a higher standard than the general population, I would like to cover a topic that most seem to ignore. Reliability...
View ArticleThe Unfolding
For years, I have stated that BDSM is nothing more than a journey within uncovering what is deep within us naturally. The people who are part of the "lifestyle" are those who spent the time looking at...
View ArticleThe Online World
The Internet changed our lives forever. With the invention of this medium, we found a new way to interact. The word "virtual" became part of our everyday vocabulary. Entire industries were created...
View ArticleDiscipline
This is a topic that gets misconstrued by many in the BDSM world. It is also a subject that few people enjoy. Nevertheless, if one is to be successful in BDSM while also holding oneself to a higher...
View ArticleYou Are The Best
Rejection is a difficult thing for many to take? This is true in any walk of life. People do not like to be told, or worse, shown, that they are not desirable in any way. However, true success in...
View ArticleA Lack Of Reality
The online BDSM world has created a disconnect from reality. Over the years, I have asked people if they thought the Internet helped or hindered the BDSM community. Based upon the responses I...
View ArticleOpportunity Cost
There is a concept in the world of economic and finance called "opportunity cost". Basically what this means is there is a loss each time resources are dedicated to one area as opposed to the other....
View ArticleOnine Safety
With so much focus of late on the online world, I thought it helpful to review a few of the basics in terms of safety. While much of this should be common sense, as we all know, when it comes to the...
View ArticleBDSM: Slavery
Today I am going to cover one of the more extreme aspects of the BDSM world: slavery. For many, because of historical contexts, this leaves a poor taste in people's mouths. When they hear the term...
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